RESILIENCY = PERCEPTION + PERSEVERANCE
Updated: Oct 2, 2020
Resiliency has been the new buzz word in the Wellness Community for the past few years and although everyone is talking about it there is little in the way of explanation and skill building to become resilient.
A simple definition is “the ability to stay on track when thrown an unexpected curve ball that is meant to shake us to our core”.
When you employ the right mindset and perception with the ability to overcome obstacles and persevere – you have achieved RESILIENCY!
You may be surprised to know there is a genetic component that defines our resiliency.
Professor Ian Craig who runs the Molecular Genetics Section of the SGCP Center at the Institute of Psychiatry in London created a study to genotype subjects to determine the amount of serotonin transported into the central nervous system.
Serotonin is the chemical in our brain that manages our well-being and happiness.
The 5-HTT gene comes in 2 different sizes or alleles. There’s a short inactive version that is stress-sensitive and a longer active version that protects against adversity.
Each of us inherits 2 copies of the gene - one from our mother and one from our father.
Each of us has 3 possible combinations of the 5-HTT gene (2 short alleles / 1 short + 1 long alleles / 2 long alleles).
The population is categorized as follows:
32% VERY RESILIENT (possesses 2 of the long active/protective alleles)
51% SOMEWHAT RESILIENT (possesses one short and one long allele)
17% NOT VERY RESILIENT (possesses two short alleles)
The above illustrates that there is a 68% chance that people can become vulnerable and experience depression when faced with unexpected misfortune.
Even if you are considered “very resilient” there is still a 17% chance that people with the stronger gene can be affected and become depressed as well.
RESILIENCY = PERCEPTION + PERSEVERANCE
If you are born without strong genetic coding you can easily develop skills and techniques to become more resilient.
Most importantly having the right mindset when dealing with a situation is imperative. It’s also essential to create anchors or a solid foundation to tap into our ability to persevere and navigate challenging situations.
Here are some ways in which to create RESILIENCY:
1) Change your mindset from “Why is this happening to me" to... "WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS”
2) Become the HERO OF YOUR OWN STORY. Rewrite the scenario or narrative so instead of being the victim you become the VICTOR. Read it to yourself before you go to sleep and when you wake up. This is when your subconscious mind is most receptive to rewiring the brain. Record the new story in your own voice and play it to yourself over and over so it becomes ingrained in your conscious mind as well.
3) SELF-AWARENESS – becoming more in tune with your emotions and triggers will help you manage them better. Traditional therapy or yoga and meditation are good places to start.
4) INTUITION – following and listening to your own internal GPS is imperative on how to handle situations. Often we are guided by history and not our own internal knowing on how to proceed when faced with opposition.
5) BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT. “You cannot suffer from the past or future because they do not exist. What you’re suffering from is your memory and imagination”.
1) Create DAILY RITUALS to ground yourself (ie: read uplifting material, recite mantras, be creative - paint, draw, dance, etc.)
2) MEDITATION – helps to clear out the subconscious programming and allows you to disassociate the feelings from the situation and gain wisdom from the experience.
3) Develop a STRONG NERVOUS SYSTEM – STRESS IS STORED IN YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM – NOT YOUR BRAIN. You need to create a strong nervous system. Helpful hints (ie: Close your eyes, TURN OFF ALL ELECTRONIC DEVICES, bring awareness to your breathe and concentrate on long deep breathing, spend at least 20 min in nature - preferably walking barefoot to balance the ions in your system.)
4) MOVE YOUR BODY – exercise and movement are key to helping process and shift the energy. When trauma and stress are not processed correctly it becomes stuck in your connective tissue and can cause physical pain.
5) Become part of a COMMUNITY (having a network of support is important – especially as we get older)
6) DIET – foods rich in DHA, omega-3 fatty acid (fish, eggs, flaxseeds, walnuts, supplements, etc) have been known to help prevent depression. SIMPLE CARBOHYDRATES – can be effective when dealing with a stressful situation on a short term basis. (Soldiers have been studied for survival training and concluded that when drinking sugary drinks they were able to recover faster and get back to work quicker.) SUGAR can trigger serotonin release as a short term fix when dealing with adverse events.
TRAUMA RELATED RESILIENCY
1) FORGIVE YOURSELF AND THE OTHER PERSON. Forgiveness is not about saying what happened to you is OK – it’s simply the process of letting go of your attachment to the feeling about the situation. It is remembering without the anger and actually places you in a position of power. This is called “Post Traumatic Growth”.
There is a Hawaiian shamanic ritual called Ho’oponopono based on 4 sayings (“I’m sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You”). When you recite this prayer it helps recode your memory and attachment to the situation by 1) acknowledging you were unaware of the situation 2) forgiving yourself for what happened 3) thanking your subconscious mind for bringing this to your attention to heal and 4) sending love to yourself to replace the anger, shame or resentment.
12 KEYS TO CREATING RESILIENCY
2) ASK – “WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS”
3) BE THE HERO OF YOUR OWN STORY
4) DEVELOP SELF AWARENESS
5) ACCESS INTUITION
6) BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT
7) CREATE DAILY RITUALS
9) DEVELOP A STRONG NERVOUS SYSTEM
10) MOVE YOUR BODY
11) BECOME PART OF A COMMUNITY
12) EAT HEALTHY FOODS (rich in Omega-3)
If you really want to learn how to develop resiliency we are often motivated by other people's stories and can learn from their courage and bravery.
THE SURVIVORS CLUB by Ben Sherwood is an amazing collection of stories of people's personal accounts from falling out of airplanes at 40,000 feet and surviving to holocaust survivors and other stories of amazing mental and physical strength. It has a section to determine your Survivor Profile and Survivor IQ and how resilient you really are or can be when challenged.
It's my ALL TIME FAVORITE BOOK and can literally CHANGE YOUR LIFE!!
Who is the most resilient person you know? I'll bet they have a positive mindset and have thrived in challenging situations.
Resiliency is a skill we can all learn.
"You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice." - Bob Marley
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